Throughout the last couple of years, the Lord has been asking me to write a book for pastors’ wives. It is still a work in progress, and I know that if I find it can be useful to others, it will give me the needed passion to complete it.
I have always envisioned this book to be used in multiple ways – whether read individually by a pastor’s wife, used in a mentoring relationship between pastors’ wives, or even read together by pastoral couples to enhance conversation regarding these issues. I think this book would also be helpful for wives of seminary students that will soon be heading into the pastoral life in the near future.
If you don’t mind, please invite anyone you know that is in this type of leadership position (or will be in the near future) to come to this site and read through the table of contents, introduction, and chapters that I have posted. I would appreciate any comments and feedback. Thanks!
Help, I’m Married to a Pastor!
July 30, 2007 at 10:20 pm
Hello dear friend! I love your “Table of Contents”. They made me smile! You hit the nail on the head with those.
I can’t wait to read more.
July 31, 2007 at 5:19 am
I am so excited about your book!! So cool!!
July 31, 2007 at 2:19 pm
Kristin, you are so awesome and I miss you! I know I’m not a pastor’s wife, but I’ll definitely read your book anyways! Maybe it’d be good for us non-pastor’s wives to read it to understand better what you go through!
Love to all of you,
Steph
July 31, 2007 at 6:02 pm
Kristin, I have a friend named Lisa who is a pastor’s wife. A writer, too! I’ll send her this link. Blessings on your work.
August 1, 2007 at 2:06 am
Wow, I loved what you wrote so far. I think the format is fantastic….”scenario”, “our experience” and then your words of wisdom…..it drew me in. I’m not a pastor’s wife but I could relate to the descriptions/scenarios. You have such great words of wisdom for such a young person. I never thought clothing could be intimidating to others, and maybe, turn people away from church. Awesome job! I’m looking forward to reading the rest of it.
August 1, 2007 at 4:15 am
Not a Pastor’s wife either, but proud to know so many of them and call them my friends and family. I can hear your voice in the chapters that I have read and you make me smile! I can’t wait to own an autographed copy one day!!
August 2, 2007 at 10:27 pm
As a PK rather than a pastor’s wife, I was chuckling out loud just reading the table of contents! I can’t wait to read “Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing”! Keep up the great work!
August 3, 2007 at 3:00 am
Wow!! I have read all that you have written and it is excellent! I will definitely purchase a copy! Love the Blog. It does bring a sense of being closer.
August 5, 2007 at 3:31 am
Bonnie Bruno sent me your way…I’m a PW and think this sounds like an excellent resource. I particularly giggled at the Single Mom on Sunday mornings. I take Sundays to focus my prayer on single moms who never have the relief I am blessed to look forward to … It really shifted my thinking and allowed me to refocus my mornings on worship instead of being mad at the Preacher for not helping me get the kids to church on time..:)
I look forward to reading through your work!
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Lisa
August 7, 2007 at 11:27 am
Generous love facilitates others’ success. By writing blog entries and your book, you’re allowing us to inherit each other’s friendship and you’re pouring yourself into us towards purer service to our King. He deserves it and you’re making it more do-able. What generous love.
August 10, 2007 at 3:20 pm
Hey Kristin!
Though I’m a pastor and NOT a wife… I think this is GREAT!
Paul
August 13, 2007 at 7:05 pm
Thank you for this web site, Kristin! Your insights are helping me better understand my friends who are pastors’ wives. Your book is so encouraging–may you find time to write more!
August 13, 2007 at 10:33 pm
This really is a wonderful way for me to get to “know” your heart a bit better, Kristin. Thank you for opening it up to all of us. God Bless…
August 21, 2007 at 6:35 pm
Just thought I’d let you know we are praying for you guys and I am just starting to take a look at your blog and book! Thanks for that awesome opportunity to reconnect. God Bless!
September 12, 2007 at 4:30 pm
well,am a pastor but will say its good to have something like this to think about
September 21, 2007 at 4:43 am
Kristin, you and Max have been models of grace to me over the years for what the pastoring family looks like. And no, I wasn’t stalking; simply observing and learning, knowing that would be my life someday. Thank you for that model. My life as a married pastor (and my wife’s as married to a pastor!) is, and will continue to be, blessed because of my time seeing a healthy “pastor family” in action! Good work on the book; keep it up! Much love to the fam…
grace and peace,
d.
September 21, 2007 at 11:48 pm
Kristin,
This is Rachel Spink, but not the daughter of Tim and Belinda Spink. I was Rachel James, up until August 4th when I married Derek. When I married him I was also given the title of “pastors wife”. I read your chapters and I look forward to what else God will have you write. I think this is a great idea and this book will help many other pastors wives. I really appreciate the closing words of your chpater: Sunday Morning – Single Mom. Even though we don’t have children yet, and not for some time, I have felt single on Sunday mornings. I need to remember that Sunday morning is work for Derek. And although I would love for us to go to church together, I am more glad that Derek is using his gifts and talents for the Lord. Thank you for your writing. When God calls us to do something, He will put the words in our mouth (Jeremiah 1:9), or in this case, on the paper.
Rachel
P.S. If you were to ever write a chapter on “Pastors wife- Expected to be it all to all people” I would love to read it!
October 2, 2007 at 5:57 pm
Your chapter on sunday morning is amazing. My book would have to say that we had a place for the kids after church and didn’t know until years later that they had found and been stealing the candy the youth group was selling. Or that they told the head trustee, “you can’t yell at me. My daddy owns the church.” I could go on… I’m glad you were blessed with good kids. Maybe you were just better at keeping them in line. I cannot imagine being that organized. But we all survived, and the ministry too.
October 18, 2007 at 12:35 am
Kristin,
Here’s another chapter title:
Help! My brother-in-law needs a pastor’s wife
Your brother-in-law,
Melvin
December 14, 2007 at 4:17 pm
Kristin,
Please, please, please keep writing!
My boyfriend of 2 years is in seminary and we’re trying to prepare for marriage – which means I need to have a proper understanding of what my role will be as a pastor’s wife. I LOVE your writing style and honest thoughts!
I like your explanations of what can be expected, as well as solutions you came up with that worked for you. Please continue!
December 14, 2007 at 4:24 pm
Kristin,
I’d also be interested in a chapter like “Competing With God” – about the struggles of your husband balancing his work and calling with attending to your needs and quality time. This is a HUGE issue for us right now…sometimes I feel like when I want/need more of his time/attention I am competing with God because he’s so devoted to his work…was that ever an issue with you and Max?
September 21, 2009 at 11:36 pm
I am in a similar situation.
I am engaged to a bishop and have a very limited perspective of how my life is changing even as I write this note. I am thankful for your words on “Your Daily Date”. What concerns me most is how so many women dramatize the life of the bishop’s wife when there are so many challenges. I see how so many wives of pastors have such strong character through their growing through situations.
I am thankful for your candor and for you being in position to be a blessing to others. Please keep it coming!
March 26, 2009 at 3:44 pm
When my husband said he was leaving his job – owner operator of a successful auto body repairs shop to go into full time ministry, I thought he was crazy. We had a daughter in college. I couldn’t be the sole provider. Well, he went 4 years without an income and the Lord provided. I also just didn’t know how to be a “Pastor’s wife” so I went to my boss, who is a pastor at a large church and asked him what to do and he said, “Just be yourself”. It hasn’t been an easy road. I am a private person, and my husband is very friendly. That at times can be a problem with women who can misinterpret it. So I pray that God protect him, and give him wisdom knowledge and discernment and help him to make wise choices in his new office. I’m glad you are doing a book for Pastor’s wives. I have read many. Most are written by women who are speakers, writers, and dress to the teeth in designer outfits. I do not fall into that category as my husband pastors to the poor and needy, not much income comes from that. So I dress casual. I once wore a dress and was asked if I got it at Chicos and I said, “No, clearance at TJ Maxx.” The woman who asked seemed so much more relaxed after that.
Let me know when the book is finished.
God bless you and your family.
Myrna